Writer's Circle - Topic: Enabling
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About The Event
verb “give (someone or something) the authority or means to do something.”
Isn’t that what we are doing when we try to help people?
Psychology Today says:
“In one sense, “enabling” has the same meaning as “empowering.” It means lending a hand to help people accomplish things they could not do by themselves. More recently, however, it has developed the specialized meaning of offering help that perpetuates rather than solves a problem. A parent who allows a child to stay home from school because he hasn’t studied for a test is enabling irresponsibility. The spouse who makes excuses for his hungover partner is enabling alcohol abuse. The friend who lends money to a drug addict “so he won’t be forced to steal” is enabling that addiction.” Read more (Good article J)
Much of the on-line info on enabling is specific to “addicts,” but addiction is not only limited to drugs and alcohol. Drama, anger, victimization can all become addictions.
This is a charged topic, one we’ve all spent some time thinking about.
I’m looking forward to hearing your experiences and thoughts on it.